Charter
These are the agreements that make the space safe enough to be present in. Everyone who comes through holds them together.
Rope doesn't replace consent. You do.
- I want this.
- I'm allowed to change my mind.
- I can stop anytime.
- I adjust for pleasure, power, or comfort.
- I can be new at this and still belong.
Our values
Curiosity. Consent. Care. Community. In that spirit:
- Consent is non-negotiable — and it applies to touch, advice, and photos alike. We ask before we offer.
- Everyone is encouraged and expected to speak up — for themselves and for others.
- This is an inclusive, anti-hate space. Bigotry isn't welcome — leave it at the door.
- Observation is always a valid way to participate. New, nervous, or just lurking is welcome.
House norms
We currently gather in a private home, which is a big trust thing — come in with respect, presence, and a shared sense of responsibility.
- If consent isn't respected, you'll be asked to leave.
- This is a cali-sober home: weed is welcome, vapes are fine, alcohol and most other substances are not. Use your best judgment.
- There's a long-haired Chihuahua named Cosmo who is part of the vibe — allergy warning!
Safety ethos
- Keep safety shears or a cutting tool within reach, every tie.
- Mind nerves and circulation; pause and adjust at the first warning sign.
- Check in often — “wiggle your toes” is always a fair thing to ask.
See Education for nerve, circulation, and consent references.